Last in the Asexuality series (not to be confused with the last time I’m going to write about asexuality) is a short post about where to go from here.
For those learning about asexuality for the first time, please don’t stop here. There are many other people blogging about asexuality and other resources talking about it. Remember that the experiences of other may sound different than what you’ve read from me but that’s because they are. No one experiences things the same way and one persons asexuality won’t necessarily be exactly like mine.
For those questioning their sexuality, trust yourself. No one can tell you who you are or how you’re supposed to feel. If you are searching for a word to magically fix everything, just know there isn’t one. Label and identifiers are only what you make them and even when applied by yourself can feel restricting. Let your ideas and questions work on themselves and you just try and be the best version of you you can be.
My hope for the future of the asexual community is complete social awareness and equality. Some of you may thing this is a huge step but it is what I hope in general, equality for everyone with no discrimination, no hate. I have always found the fact that as human beings we always find someone else to discriminate against appalling.
But if you look back through the history of our race that is what you’ll find. One group, not agreeing with another and trying to oppress them with the oppressed group fighting back. I told my partner many years ago that once gay people eventually gained their freedom and equality a new group would take their place. Another group that has been oppressed and made to feel ashamed for simply being who they are.
I challenge you, reader, to go from this with nothing more or less than a new view on the people around you. Be mindful of the things you say and know that intent and impact can be worlds apart. I posted this series with the intent of raising awareness and fertilizing the soil of some minds but you are the one it impacted, you are the other side of that coin. Do I know the full impact of my posts? No. Did they have any undesired effects? Maybe, I don’t know. But if they did then hopefully you’ll forgive me and take away the positive from what you’ve read and learned over the last six weeks with me.
And lastly, I have a small hope, a wish if you will, to hear that when people are teaching their children about sexuality and puberty and so forth that the entire QUILT BAG spectrum be included in that discussion. Leaving it out won’t stop children for being on the spectrum it simply prolongs their feeling of being outside of everyone around them. If you love them teach them what they need to know to live better and more fulfilled lives, give them the tools they need to know that they are not alone.